#085 – Compliments (Like Switch Pt 7) [Podcast]

We continue talking through the “Golden Rule of Friendship.”  How does this rule apply to compliments?  Do compliments help?

Compliments

Compliments

Complimenting other people (especially new friends) can be a powerful tool. But … you must be careful and not abuse this technique.

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#084 – Golden Rule of Friendship (Like Switch Pt 6) [Podcast]

The more you can let go of your ego, the better your friendships will be.  Making your conversations more about the other person (and less about you), the more people will love being around you.  This is referred to as the “Golden Rule of Friendship.”

Golden Rule of Friendship

Golden Rule of Friendship

This can be very difficult to do since we want people to be interested in us. But be patient … the more you make it all about them, the more they will return the favor.  Using empathic statements are one way we can do this. Let’s look at a few examples of this.

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#083 – Foe Signals (Like Switch Pt 5) [Podcast]

In previous weeks, we have looked are the various “friend” signals. But what about foe signals?  What are some things we may do that make us appear unfriendly to other people?

Foe Signals

Foe Signals

During every social approach, humans must assess each other’s intentions. Facial expressions provide cues to assist in these assessments via associations with emotion, the likelihood of affiliation, and personality.  Sure, you might have felt genuine when saying, “I’d love to go to the movies!” But the creased brow, quizzical eyes, tight lips, and crossed arms tell a very different story.

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Can You Hear Me Now?! … Special Announcement

This is a special announcement for the podcast.  Just a quick update on what has been happening and making sure everything is working properly in my system.

hear

hear

I have had numerous problems of late with the site … from malware shutdowns … to podcasts not showing up … to Bluehost crashing … I think everything is finally fixed. Here is an update on things.

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#082 – Trust (Like Switch Pt 4) [Podcast]

Trust … People size you up in seconds, but what exactly are they evaluating?  Harvard Business School professor Amy Cuddy has been studying first impressions alongside fellow psychologists Susan Fiske and Peter Glick for more than 15 years, and has discovered patterns in these interactions.

Trust

Trust

In her new book, “Presence,” Cuddy says people quickly answer two questions when they first meet you:

  • Can I trust this person?
  • Can I respect this person?

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#081 – Three Nonverbal Friend Signals (Like Switch Pt 3) [Podcast]

It’s well known that good communication is the foundation of any successful relationship, be it personal or professional. It’s important to recognize, though, that it’s our nonverbal communication—our facial expressions, gestures, eye contact, posture, and tone of voice—that speak the loudest.

NonVerbal Friend Signals

NonVerbal Friend Signals

The ability to understand and use nonverbal communication, or body language, is a powerful tool that can help you connect with others, express what you really mean, and build better relationships.

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#080 – Friend or Foe (Like Switch Pt 2) [Podcast]

We continue our study on “The Like Switch” by Jack Schafer and Marvin Karlins. This week we look at the Friend vs Foe continuum as discussed in Chp 1.

Friend or Foe

Friend or Foe

What is the “urban scowl”? And how might our nonverbal facial expressions be causing people to see us as undesirable or worse a foe in life?

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#079 – Friendship Formula (Like Switch Pt 1) [Podcast]

We begin a new study this week on “The Like Switch” by Jack Schafer and Marvin Karlins. This week we look at the “Friendship Formula” as discussed in Chp 1.

Friendship Formula

Friendship Formula

The Friendship Formula is rather simple:  Friendship = Proximity + Frequency + Duration + Intensity. In this episode, we discuss each of these aspects in detail.

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#078 – Without Regrets [Podcast]

No one would ever say they want to live with regrets at the end of their life. Yet, we can get so busy in life, that we can never think through the very things that will cause regrets later.

Without Regrets

Without Regrets

 

Numerous research has shown what a lot of people consider as regrets at the end of their life. In this episode, we discuss 36 things that people have admitting having regrets about in older ages.

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#077 – Wayne Dyer Tribute [Podcast]

Wayne Dyer recently passed away. He was a hero of mine, and someone that I always listened to and realigned my life afterward. Dr. Dyer has many amazing teaching out, and I would encourage that you check them out.

Wayne Dyer

Wayne Dyer

 

In this episode, I talk about some of the top 10 things I have learned from Wayne Dyer. I also quote him for each of these things and discuss what it means to me.

I also detail our next big study which is coming up in a few weeks.

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